10/12/2007: "Some Friday stuff"

mood: excited

Friday Fiver

1. What's your personal hell?
Strapped to a chair in front of a bookshelf full of encyclopedias. Someone comes along and starts slowly rearranging them. AAAAAUUUGGGHHHH!

2. Do you prefer brightly lit rooms or dim spaces?
If it's natural sunlight then I'm good with brightly lit rooms. Otherwise I do like dim spaces.

3. What's the weather like today?
Overcast, cold. It'll be like this for the next 6 months. Tell me again why I live in this godforsaken state?

4. Is it easy to be you?
Not really.

5. Friday fill-in:
My heaven is .
A gourmet kitchen will the finest ingredients at my disposal, scantily clad chicks hanging about and kissing, and a hockey game on TVs all around said kitchen.

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Alt Friday Five

1. How do, did, or would you usually negotiate consent with a new sexual partner? Verbally or non-verbally? Ahead of time or in the moment? By waiting for them to take things to the next level and either agreeing or disagreeing -- or vice versa, by trying something and seeing if they stop you or not?

Completely in the moment. You just know when both parties are into it.

2. Has there ever been a time (or times) when someone did something sexual (anything from groping to sex, however you define that) to you without your consent? If so, tell us a bit about it.

Yes, I had an unexpected hand up my shirt. I was surprised but I wouldn't say I was angry or uncomfortable with it. Flattered, mostly.

3. Has there ever been a time (or times) when you did something sexual (anything from groping to sex, however you define that) with someone that you're not sure that they consented to (either not sure at the time, or realized later)? If so, tell us a bit about it.

No, but there was one time when we tried to get something going and he must have had some performance anxiety or something.

4. Do you have trouble saying no in sexual interactions? Why or why not?

It's not really an issue. I'm married. I take it whenever I can get it unless I'm extremely tired or there's alcohol involved. Then I have no trouble at all saying no.

5. Do you have trouble saying yes in sexual interactions? Why or why not?

I'm married. I'll take it whenever I can get it. :)